The transition of Bruce Jenner into Caitlyn Jenner was the first time a sex change affected me emotionally. I missed Bruce. He was the only bearable, honest, normal person on Keeping up with the Kardashians. When I shut my eyes and just listen, I realize Caitlyn has the voice and the same authentic, deep-thinking and unHollywood persona I always admired in Bruce, but Caitlyn’s new facial appearance throws me for a loop.

But that was nothing compared to the confusion and grief I felt when I first looked into the mascaraed eyes of my new step-daughter, Tarren. What made it even more difficult was the lack of warning. There was never a clue that Terrwyn was confused or distressed by his male gender. I never caught him playing with my make-up or trying on my high heels. No heads-up. No ‘Oh, by the way, I have something to tell you.’ Not one inkling or clue that Terrwyn was anything but happy to be male.